Kylie Brooks

TW discussion of ableism

By using Disability words that perpetuate the idea that disability is negative, you’re saying that being Disabled is wrong and that anyone being the attributes of a disability is wrong.

These words refer to:

• People with mental illnesses
• People with intellectual and developmental disabilities
• People with physical disabilities
• Deaf/HOH/self identified Hearing Impaired people
• Blind/Low Vision/Visually Impaired people
• People of any other disability category I did not list here

There is nothing wrong with being a disability. Stop using these words.

Use these words listed instead (under the Non-ableist language section).

TW: mention of CSA

Hearing NT (neurotypical) culture is very indirect. As a neurodivergent person (Deaf, Autistic, ADHD). this often means that I know I have to do something, but I don’t really know why. And I think I understand the purpose of doing it, but in fact I find I don’t really understand when someone explains why to do it.

I once asked someone (a NT) why statutory rape was wrong, They didn’t know, they could only say that it was wrong. The answer is because of cognitive ability to understand adult sex.

I recently learned why tipping was important. I knew to tip, but not WHY. Now I know: compensation.

Gender is the interaction between neurology and culture. Your genitals do not make you male or female, rather your identification with the meanings of maleness and femaleness in the culture that you live in makes you male or female.

A scary thing indeed to witness us in North America not challenging or discussing authority and the extent of trusting authority.

By authority, I non-exhaustively mean:

• doctors
• cops
• heads of state and their political parties
• therapists
• academia
• employers
• any entity whose decisions can impact you for good or bad in very significant ways, and any person running the same

 

The driver is coming back soon. I will have to have a talk with management to ensure that this doesn’t happen again. It almost did once before but a few mins or so later the driver came.

Respectability politics is a set of rules that men, straight people, cis people, abled people, etc (privileged people) think they want women, queer people, trans people, disabled people, etc to follow so that those marginalized people can be respected.

But the root of that is the prejudice that privileged people hold. Marginalized people following a particular rule will never be enough for privileged people – there are always more rules because of that prejudice. These rules are impossible to follow and always neverending.

Examples of rules:

• if you don’t want to get pregnant, don’t have sex!
• Trans women must look like women in order to be treated as women!
• Black people should not be angry!
• Don’t be lazy and you will have money!

I am on the phone with Grocery Gateway, a grocery delivery service. Their driver did not contact me to inform me they were here in the apartment building. Trying to get the driver back.

Fuck you, audism and phonocentrism.

Content warning: Discussion of Christianity

I intentionally do not talk much about my religion in order to avoid triggering people. I will keep it that way.

Myself, I am a non-denominational Christian. Despite what some people may think. I am not a Jehovah’s Witness. Their faith is oppressive – it is homoantagonistic, transantagonistic and misogynistic, and I hereby go on record on this site as saying that  I do not support the JWs.

What do I believe?

• God exists, but as belief mainly. God cannot be scientifically proven.
• I believe in the theory of Original Sin, but the narrative has various flaws and can in itself be oppressive.
• Because of Original Sin, Jesus was sent to Earth by God as an eventual sacrifice to atone for the sins of humanity.
• Jesus, a man of color, was killed by an oppressive government at 33 years old in an act of public execution for doing nothing wrong.

I’m Kylie and/or Cassandra (she/her) / Jesse and/or Cass (they/them).

My thoughts:

• Accommodation is important, however it should not be the only thing done
• Disability needs to be integrated by employers of all kind in both the employee side and the customer service side into the organizational culture
• This integration is NOT tokenism, “inclusion” or “diversity”
• Rather, integration of disability means a reshaping of the organization to center Disability and be accountable to Disability communities.